Singapore Motivational Speaker, A to Z in Success

A to Z in Success

Santhanaram Jayaram, Singapore

7 Tips On How to Make Choices

7 Tips On How to Make Choices

Olga Hermans

1. Realize That You Have a Free Will

Many times people think that circumstances determine the direction of their life, but that is not so true. Have you ever thought about how those circumstances were created in your life? It is how we respond to the things that happen in our life that has a much greater impact and sets us up for the good or for the bad.

One thing that is given to all of us is a free will; we have to exercise that aspect of our life. If we don’t, impulses take over and fear and anxiety will develop our habits and habits develop our character and character develops our destiny. We are able to choose to act in a different way or at least learn to act differently and make choices toward life, love, peace and be filled with joy.

2. Realize That It Is You Who Has To Take Action

Make a decision and connect with that decision as much as possible. You can do that by writing things down. And then the most important part is to choose to take action. Not taking action is also a choice. You don’t have to do anything. Every action or non-action has consequences. Exercising our will gives you the power and the freedom to choose where we are in life and what we will do. That is when life changes from an obligation to a blessed opportunity.

3. Realize That You Can Take The Path of Life.

When we are influenced by outside forces, we might make the decision to give in and take the path of least resistance. If we go for immediate gratification we usually end up in mediocre conditions and we feel less fulfilled than that we had hoped for. Every choice that we make leads us either away from our destiny or right into our destiny where we will experience life to the fullest.

You determine what you are going to do. Don’t let another man’s weakness determine what you’re going to do. That can mess up your life and steer you off course in life.

4. Realize That Your Commitment is Very Important.

Commitment to yourself is very important; if you don’t care for yourself, you betray yourself and in the long run even punish yourself. You have to be able to commit yourself to make good choices, whatever it takes. Don’t let your impulses just run wild and make you a slave to yourself. Only when you have sufficient self-worth to choose whether to end something of value to you, you can fully commit to it.

Only when you learn to commit to yourself will you stop your self-sabotaging behaviour. Unless you realize you have the power to say no, you can never really say yes. Not to your relationships, not to your work, not to your life, not to anything.  If you realize what it means to say no to something, you also will realize what it means to say yes to something.

5. Realize that your choices affect the world around you.

So, look further. Your family will be influenced by big choices and sometimes also smaller choices. Take that in consideration. Remember: good choices will bring good things and bad choices will bring not such good things.

Steve D’Annunzio says it this way: “Fear-driven people constantly fight, desire-driven people constantly want, pride-driven people constantly manipulate, mission-driven people constantly learn and teach, love-driven people constantly serve and enlighten…it’s always your/my choice” – What drives you?

6. Realize that when you make choices for others you have to be careful.

Your intention can be good, but assuming too much responsibility for others deprives them of the lessons that arise from the choices they have made. People like your input, but nobody wants their life to be ruled by others. Remember, we have been given a free will.

7. Realize that you have the power to change your destiny.

I don’t have to know you to know that God has created a part for you on earth, it is a part that only you can play, a suit/or dress that only you can fit and a divine destiny that only you can fulfill.

Forget about trying to fit someone else’s mould. Keep your thoughts and emotions free of those kinds of obstacles by accepting yourself and the unique destiny that God has pre-ordained for you!

Use your emotions for the purpose God gave them, and don’t let the devil use them for his purpose. Embrace life with passion and use your emotions wisely. God wants to use them to help you enjoy your life, but the devil wants to use them to prevent you from enjoying life. The good news is the choice is up to you.

Power of Imagination

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The creative mind

Brainstorming could be quite time consuming. If we could use a method, we save a lot of time. The power of using morphological matrix to get combination for key words. Coming up with an acronym becomes so much easier.
The first step is to come up with as many positive words that relate to GOAL.
If we start off with the letter G, we could get the following words such as Grabbing your attention, giving your best, Go-getting, Good to greatness, going all the way, Glory, Getting there, grasping the subject. (8 possibilities)
Next if we look at the letter O, we could get the following words such as Opportunities, Outcome, Objective, Organizing your thought, Order, Optimism, on the right tracks, out to get the results. (8 possibilities)
Then if we look at A, we could get the following words such as Availability of resources, Accountability, Accuracy, Alliances, Amount of effort, Attitude, All out to win, Assign.(8 possibilities)
Finally if we look at L, we could get the following words such as Listen to your inner voice, Learning from others, looking for avenues, Lucky, Leading, Leverage, Letting your bad habits go, Likability. (8 possibilities)
We could possibly get 8 X 8 X 8 X 8 = 4,096 and if you just add one more possibilities to each you get 6,561 possible combinations that could be great solutions.
The following are just a few examples for G.O.A.L.
Grabbing your attention, objectives, accountability and leverage. Grasping the subject, objectives, accountability and leverage. Good to Greatness, objectives, accountability and leverage. Grabbing your attention, organize your thoughts, accountability and leverage. Go-Getting, objectives, accountability and learning from others.

Actively Engaging the Disengaged

Task and relationships are two major ingredients that take place in any form of interaction. The sooner organizations can realize that if they want to focus on getting things done according to importance and urgent, they would have to look into qualities of experience from the relations of the employees.

Organization do have an interest, to make their shareholders happy. The mission of most organizations would be to increase their sales turnovers, to reduce their overheads and make great profit.

What we focus on will expand. If we keep focusing on getting employees engaged in their task,have we overlooked some areas? Do we spend time in a relationship to better understand our employees? What makes them engaged at work? There is a greater driving force that allows more work to be done with greater efficiency and effectiveness by just connecting with them on a deeper level.

Some quick pointers to think about on the subject of employee engagement.

Are we investing time understanding our direct contacts such as supervisors, subordinates and any other internal customers?

Are we taking an active role understanding the talents, style and skills our employees posses?

What are the company values, our values and others values?

What engages them at work?

What disengages them?

When was the last time you invested in better understanding their values and expectations?

Do we focus more on the task and forget about the relationship?

Are we using technology such as text messages, emails and letters that we lack the human touch?

The key to a successful employee-employer relationship is not only be clear of the task and communicating it but taking the time to understand others.Why do I say this? Allow me to share with you an experience encountered by a friend. He engaged a few staff to work for him to complete a project. Initially they were very extremely committed and enthusiastic. However, in the heart of the project he faced so much of excuses raised by the employees and witness a reduction in productivity that resulted in the delay of the project. Fortunately my friend believes strongly in empathy. Being a people-oriented person, he invested the time understanding their concerns, values and aspirations. Just by that experience, working on those interactions and relationship, he was able to secure an extremely committed and happy team and many projects and contracts.

I would like to strongly urge you on to look into this matter. Are we spending enough time in better understanding our employee?

How to connect with anyone at all levels?

Man is a social animal bounded by relationships, both personal and formal. According to Barbara Colorose, "We control fifty percent of a relationship and influence hundred percent of it". Influence is the capacity to produce the required effect on the actions, behavior and opinions of others. The appropriate utilization of influence helps you produce excellent results, thereby making you the "Special Point of Contact", which in turn again makes your circle of influence larger and effective. And as the work burden increases, it necessitates the influence on all other levels of organization in order to deliver the task on time. Technically, this is called as the Law of Reciprocity and Exchange. According to the law, exchange and influence are an important part of interpersonal behavior; exchange being paid for what is done and influence is giving others what they need.

Influence needn't come from a higher level of authority. It comes from those who possess certain leadership qualities like intelligence, maturity, personality, etc. Such influential people can be called leaders in their respective fields. Leaders inspire others towards high performance leading to significant impact on the organization's performance. The attributes of inspiring leaders include being role models, goal setters, change champions, good communicators and most importantly making an emotional connection with the group. The competency of leaders lies not in fixing the weaknesses of the group but in rather building their key areas of strength.

A good leader has the ability to engage with the employees and build strong relationships. He renders full support to employees at all levels to utilize their full potential and achieve professional and personal success. A leader is who is always open to ideas from all levels of the organization, creates an exciting environment for the employees to work in. Sub ordinates tend be mutually supportive. This increases the productivity and ultimately the sub ordinates are rewarded for their extra effort taken. Therefore, we can say that motivating the employees to perform better is a psychological process linked to the stimulus which has to come from the leader.

Leadership is a means of motivating the subordinates. Among motivational factors like harmonizing, empathizing, appreciating, rewarding, being a role model and morally supporting the employees, its harmony in the work groups that arouse the team spirit. This is better known as "Espirit De' Corps". It inspires and influences the workers to work harder together. To inculcate the team spirit the subordinates should be infused with a sense of belongingness towards their job. A face to face mode of communication should be practiced for greater and better impact.

It is rightly said that only when people enjoy their job, they deliver their best. So, the work culture of an organization or the home, be it whatsoever, the enjoying spirit should be alive in them. There should be no place for any misunderstanding and efforts should be directed at creating enthusiasm. An enthusiasm filled heart influences the person to give his best shot.

Engaging Factors

1) Is there clarity in Job expectation?

2) Are there high levels of motivation?

3) Are there adequate tools to complete work responsibilities?

4) Is there a culture of respect where outstanding work is valued?

5) When was the last review of company rewards, recognitions and incentive systems? Is it Fair and appropriate?

6) Is Effective leadership available?

7) Are there opportunities for advancement and professional development?

8) Is regular constructive feedback and mentoring available?